About us

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Hello and welcome! My name is Mia and I’m a mother, a wife, a lawyer, and I have been blessed to travel the world, supporting my husband who is a professional basketball player. We have lived in Italy, Greece, Germany, Turkey, Venezuela, Belgium, and Argentina. I spend all of my time with my husband and four beautiful children, ages 11, 7, 4, and 2. We also have a 1 year old miniature Dachshund named Rico Suave. I’m a former track athlete so I try to spend as much time in the gym, or on the roads, as possible. I also spend a good deal of time in the kitchen trying to come up with palate pleasing dishes for my always hungry family.

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I was born in Finland to a Finnish mother and Black Puerto Rican father, but I was raised in the best city in the world, New York City.  I completed my undergraduate studies at Trinity College in Hartford, CT and received my law degree from Boston University.  My husband was born and raised in Boston and completed his undergraduate studies at The University of Notre Dame. We are a match made in heaven, while remaining the ultimate yin and yang. How we haven’t burned the house down based on our Yankee/Redsox arguments alone, I don’t know.

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We’re almost always in sync

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My beautiful mom giving me away

The newest addition

The newest addition

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23 Comments on “About us

  1. Reading this eased my mind a lot! My family is getting ready to move over seas so my husband can play basketball. I’m nervouse I have no idea how to make that transition. I’d love to be able to talk to you more . Its so hard to find any advice on basketball life over seas

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  2. Hi. I absolutely love your blog. I am in a serious relationship with a basketball player this is his last year in college and already has a offer to go play pro overseas on Spain. I’m very excited for him. He wants me to come with him when he does leave because after he graduates he has to go back home to London because he’s only here on a visa for college which is tough but I am definitely supportive of him and whatever decision he makes. My only issue is is that I have a 3 year old son from a previous relationship and I would love for my son to go overseas but I’m not sure how to go about explaining it to his father and if he’ll even allow me to take our son out of the country. That’s the only issue that’s hard and stressful on me because I love my boyfriend and I don’t want to see myself with anyone but him but I also don’t want to seem like I’m putting a man before my son of my sons father doesn’t agree with me taking him overseas. I’m in a really big dilemma and really need some sort of advice. Please! Thanks a lot!

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    • Hi Payton, Thanks for reading my blog! Congrats to your boyfriend, it is exciting. As for you taking your son overseas, it will be tough. You won’t be able to stay longer than 3 months bc of visa issues since you guys aren’t married, so you would have to come and go a few times which might be difficult for a small child. Your son’s father also might not agree, and you have to have his permission to take him overseas. I have a friend who went through that and the father did not agree so she had to leave her son home for a few months and it was really hard for her. The next year he did agree to letting his son go with her so maybe you should just try to talk to him and give him some time to get comfortable with the idea. Good luck to you!

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  3. Love, love, LOVE your blog! I am currently sitting in Belgrade, Serbia where my boyfriend has signed to play. We’ve been together 4 years now (we met in college) and have been through the NBA, d-league, and now overseas. It is definitely a crazy life! This is the first time I have not worked and I think I may go crazy, haha. I came across your blog and I just want to say you seem like an amazing wife, mother, and writer 🙂 Looking forward to more posts!

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    • Thanks so much Brittany! Yes this life isn’t for everyone, and it takes a special kind of person and love to move to Belgrade! Hang in there and take lots of pictures so you’ll always remember your travels and adventures!

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    • Brittany!
      My name is Rachael and I have SO many questions about overseas. My boyfriend is looking at playing overseas for the first time. We have been together 2+years and I was just wondering how it works? Can you work? He is pretty sure I will be able to go with him but I don’t know how that works. Im just anxious!! ANY advice would be great.
      Thank you!

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  4. Hey , thank you so much for the blog. I’m half Finnish and Colombian in a relationship with basketball player from the states . We been together for three years but this year has been his first away in another country.second year in eurolegue . It is hard at times when the team overworks and expect players to be machines. And some days the distance does get to me but I try to stay strong for him. just wanted to say thank you for Sharing your experiences .

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  5. Im so glad to find your blog. My boyfriend of 3 years had his first professional contact last year. His seasson is already over and he is getting ready for a next one. I had the opportunity of going with him to Lithuanian and then Greece during his first season(Fall, winter break and for Spring Break) We arent living together yet because I’m still in college in New York City(this is my last semester) but we have plans of me moving together for his next season even though we dont know were he is going to play. Im very happy and thanksful for our relationship but at the same time im scared because it is a big step. I wish to keep in contact with you:)

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    • I’m glad you enjoyed my blog, and congrats to your boyfriend! Deciding whether to travel with your significant other is always a tough decision, especially if you have big plans career-wise at home. It is a unique and exciting lifestyle to be able to live around the world, instead of merely traveling as a tourist, but it can also be lonely and isolating, so you should take some time and talk to as many loved ones as possible. Good luck to you!

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  6. Thank you for your blog Mia! My boyfriend has played overseas for a few years now. We are new parents to a 2 month old baby boy! I have stayed in the States during all of his contracts and we are now looking to move overseas as a family on his next contract. What is your experience with the children’s health care in the various countries you’ve lived in? Do you keep health insurance for the kids in the US too? Thank you so much for sharing your experiences 🙂

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    • Hi Claire, thank you for reading! Well when it comes to health care all you really need to do is make sure that your boyfriend’s contract explicitly states that him, you, and the baby will have full medical (we also include dental) coverage. I’ve found that each country (and team) is different in how they handle it, and to be honest, most don’t actually do it by the books. The only place we had actual government sanctioned insurance was in Berlin, Germany. Every other country they just take care of all our medical needs. If a child is sick we tell the team and they either tell us where to go, or they send someone to take us to a doctor, and they pay all expenses. I was pregnant in Germany and in Turkey and in both places almost all expenses were covered. In Germany where I had government insurance I had to pay co-pays like in the states and I had to pay for some ultrasounds and blood works, but I delivered there and only paid for the private room. When I was pregnant in Turkey there were no co-pays since we didn’t have any official insurance, the team just paid for whatever we needed. So all you really need to do is make sure that you have a clause in your contract where health insurance is explicitly mentioned, so if the team refuses to honor it later then they will be in breach and your boyfriend can refuse to play and/or leave. Good luck to you guys!

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  7. Hi there!
    So happy I found your blog! My boyfriend and I have been together for a little while now and he is about to head overseas, again. Previously he was in Australia. Now we have decided that I will be joining him. He is going to a placement program in June then once he figures out where he is going I will join him.

    One thing that we are still trying to figure out is the laws with me joining him. Since we are not married do I have to apply for a Visa? I know it will depend on which country he goes to but I’m very nervous about the proper actions we should take with the whole situation.

    Thank you so much!

    -Ashley

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    • Hi Ashley, thanks for reading! As far as visas are concerned, it really does depend on the country. Most of the time it definitely is more difficult to deal with visas if you aren’t married. Our first season out iItaly we weren’t married, and as a result I didn’t dare leave until the season was over. I was lucky that when I left the passport control guy I had was so enthralled by my Italian-sounding last name that he didn’t notice OR fault me for the many months I overstayed my visitors visa. However, a few years later while in Greece, we trusted the team to take of our visas like they promised, which they did not do, so once we left after the season we were stopped and realized that they didn’t take care of anything and we were fined thousands of Euros. I’ve since learned to not to take the word of any team manager/president/representative. If you do, there’s a good chance you will end up in violation of visa rules. So you just have to make sure that it is explicitly stated in the contract that they will cover all costs associated with visas and resident permits, and if they don’t do it quickly enough you annoy the hell out out them until they can show you proof that that you have legal status in whatever country you’re in. Good luck!

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  8. First off I want to say I love your blog, Mia! Second, I would love some advice if you are willing to give it. My boyfriend has been playing overseas for about 4 years now, and we have recently been talking seriously about me joining him this upcoming season. one of my main concern is employment for myself. I don’t want to depend on him for everything and I especially want to stay busy. I graduated a year ago from undergrad and have been teaching for the last year. What would you suggest the best opportunity would be for me to find a job? Thank you so much for your time.

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    • Thanks Elizabeth! Someone else just asked me this same question, it really is one of the main concerns we seem to have when joining our men overseas! It really is pretty difficult, unless you have some of pre established job that allows you to work from home or you own your own business. However if you are already a teacher then you can probably find a job with a language school teaching English as a second language. I know a good number of wives who have done that in multiple countries. You would just need to get certified, but you can do it online and I have heard it’s a pretty simple process. Otherwise if you’re crafty you can always start your own business making things and selling on Etsy or online to keep busy! Good luck!

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  9. Hi Mia,

    I think what you’re doing with your blog is awesome. I would also love some advice about working opportunities overseas. I am graduating in December with my masters in sports management. Like you, I was an athlete in college. I played basketball at the University of Kansas for four years along with my boyfriend. We are engaged now and I will be heading overseas with him in December. You mentioned that you’re a lawyer now so I was wondering if or what you do to earn an income overseas and if you know of any sport related jobs that I might be able to do regardless of the language barrier.

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  10. Hi Natalie, Thanks and congrats to you guys! Many women find that working overseas is a problem, and the jobs are hard to come by, especially since only our guys have the work visas. The women I know that have been able to work, have done so teaching English in schools or as private tutors. I’m not really interested in that so I haven’t been able to work in all my years overseas. If you know the language of where you’re going then you’ll definitely have a leg up. Ask the team to help get the word out that you’re interested in working and they may be able to steer you in the right direction.Good luck!

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  11. I love this, I am new to all of this. I travel to Poland with my daughter in December with my boyfriend. He’s leaving in a couple of weeks, I finish school in December then my 1 year old daughter and I will be down there. I am so nervous, but reading this blog really helped me! This is our first year overseas and we are both young with lots of questions, thanks for this!

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